The post on out sauce about only having people on your facebook to laugh at them and the onslaught of comments that ensued was absolutely disgraceful and the perfect example of cyber bullying.
Its embarassing to even read.
If you saw is let me know what you think!
Yes, I’d like to add something on to this topic if I may. After any serious-ish breakup you ponder life for quite some time, you tend to doubt your image, your worth, the security around you, and anything else which severed its way though the certainty you once had while in the relationship, and yeah it fucking sucks. It really does. But
More often than not, after healing time and growth maybe with a new partner in the picture and you actually think - yeah, (the ex’s) weren’t as great as I originally envisaged.
Or,
After going round in circles for what feels like years of internal emotional torment, you have this magnificent realisation that;
Absent in your life, is the consumable presence of love, which is what you sorely miss.
Not your ex-girlfriend.
This begs the question, why are we all so fearful about being alone?
Anonymous asked: i think you should find photos of the rally and post them!
That is an excellent idea! I shall do some digging! In the mean time, you can send some glorious pictures to perth.sapphic@hotmail.com if you feel we are a little dry on the image front, or just of Perth girls- and we most likely will post!
Ladies, lets talk about break ups.
Now the way I see it is this.
1. You break up with the other person.
2. They break up with you and either a) think that makes them a shit person or b) you care about them enough to support them in doing what is best for them.
Moving on from these points if you are option 1 you don’t need to read any further, just know that once you break up, you’re over, don’t give the other person hope by continuing to contact them, don’t tell them you miss them, it’s cruel. I have been guilty of contacting my ex but I’m leaving her alone now so she can get over me.
If you are option 2.a, great! You’re entitled to your opinion, if you think your ex has become a shit person because of how they broke up with you, or why they broke up with you (i.e. cheating) then you go right ahead and think that till you hearts content. However DO NOT use these feelings as an excuse to become a shit person yourself. Rise above the bullshit and cut that bitch out of your life, if they’re a shit person then you’re better off with out them and do not need to contact them, get your mates to, or do shit just to spite them (i.e. hooking up with their mates). Don’t stoop to their level.
If youre 2.b, you have your work cut out for you. This is a hard position to be in, because even though you’re hurting you still want whats best for your ex. In this situation it has to be realised that you need to love yourself first and care about yourself more than your ex. Take time for yourself FIRST, make sure you have come to terms with what happened that your feelings have started to at least diminish before you start to get close to your ex again (please note this is building a friendship).
If you look at this and disagree or don’t think you would have the emotional maturity to achieve this or think “I would do this but she…” then you’re not capable of doing option 2.b, and should stick to not contacting your ex, not only for you own emotional health and strength but also hers.
PLEASE NOTE: under NO circumstances does harassing or abusing your ex become an acceptable way of dealing with the break up.
Under NO circumstances do your friends have the right to contact your ex to have a go at them in any way.
Please try and keep your cool ladies make sure you try and stay happy and look at the positives still in your life, you girlfriend is only one element not your whole life. And if she was you had an unhealthy dependence on her and now have an opportunity to develop your independence from her! There is always a bright side!
Also added to this, if you’re really struggling then do not be afraid or ashamed to call or contact a professional that can help with your sturggle.
Northstar says “I do” to his partner in a comics first. Picture: Marvel Source: Supplied
X-MEN superhero Northstar will make comic book history by marrying his longtime partner in Marvel Comics’ first gay wedding.
Northstar, who came out as Marvel’s first gay character in 1992, will wed his partner Kyle in issue No. 51 of Astonishing X-Men.
“When gay marriage became legal in New York State, it raised obvious questions since most of our heroes reside in New York State,” Marvel editor-in-chief Axel Alonso told Rolling Stone.
“Our comics are always best when they respond to and reflect developments in the real world. We’ve been doing that for decades, and this is just the latest expression of that.”
Astonishing X-Men writer Marjorie Liu said the series would portray the relationship between Northstar, a mutant, and non-superhero Kyle as similar to that of soldiers or police officers and their spouses.
“You have, for example, one partner who is always going off into dangerous situations, whose ‘team’ at work is an important, integral, part of their lives, and then you’ve got the person left behind,” she explained.
“Like Kyle, who has a perfectly wonderful life, a great job, but is a human man who has to watch his partner go fight aliens or giant robots, or insane supervillains at the drop of a hat, and there’s nothing he can do to help.”
v0dka-sluts asked: it was probally the greatest day of my life, jst to see how many people in perth really do agree with equal rights! i was moved! well, i odnt have any recommendations or suggestions yet, but when i get to know your blog better ill tell you :) xx
excellent excellent!
So, I haven’t been here in an age, forgive me if I am a bit rusty.
I have been sick pretty much all of this week, which has resulted in me being at home by myself a lot and in turn has resulted in some deep meditative thought on life and relationships. Here is one theory I have formed.
The most important word in our language is no.
No is the word that gives us freedom, saying no is like a great fantastic golden sticker next to your name (in most cases).
Thinking back on some of the greatest moments in history a lot of good came from such a negative word, for example, feminists saying no to inequality against gender, African Americans saying no to inequality against race, members of the Homosexual community saying no to inequality against sexual preference, Australia voting no against the death penalty etc.
Now im not saying that yes isnt as important as any clever little yap may point out that you needed a yes to the reverse of no to make things happen i.e. people could say yes to equality having the same meaning as saying no to inequality.
While this is a valid point I still feel no is a more fantastic and freedom giving word than yes.
Has anyone ever experienced a rising level of stress because they are being bullied or coerced into doing something they don’t want to, have you tried just saying no? I did once, it was fucking brilliant. I was like “no.” and the whole problem went away.
Ive even said no to myself and felt good about it like, “No Im not going to get upset about this.”
Of course too much of a good thing…. like when people refuse to cheer up, or help themselves, or listen to you… You no abusers out there.
I have experienced a relationship where my no wasn’t listened to, appreciated or understood. Even I didn’t realise it was happening straight away. But with a clear mind and benefit of hindsight, I now realise that saying no was the course of all our problems.
So I entreat my fellow lesbians to try this new word on for size, try saying no something or some one and see what happens, if the some one doesn’t take your no without a fight, perhaps even with out you detailing a reason. Then maybe their not the right person.
-Texus
I try not to post pictures of non Perth girls, but this is an understandable exception.
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Rally: Saturday 12 May, 2012
Details: Stirling Gardens, CBD, 1pm
Contact: k.hardy.jan15.1919@gmail.com
Khyl Hardy – 0413 073704
